Compromising & Understanding...
Posted by
Sivaanan Balachandran
on Sunday, July 20, 2008
It troubles me when I stumble upon these two words in my head...
No matter how much I try to separate the two infamous words, yet the finale always turns out to be the same. Compromising and understanding, comes hand in hand. We have learned that to enable understanding, we need to compromise. In order to compromise, we need to understand...
What puzzles me is the inability to understand and compromise at certain circumstances. Why does this happen we ask? Well its simple... Not one human being is born equal. Practically every individual are born differently. We develop a contrasting mindset compared to others, thus we are unique in our thinking and our values. As we grow, we are influenced by our surroundings. Media, people we interact with and even family.
A couple in a relationship must ensure the ability to understand and compromises exist between them. However what is there to be done when there is lack of similarities when the two individuals are a major contrast in terms of thinking. Does this bring D-Day to the relationship?
On a personal basis, I find compromise and understanding an easy task to be carried out. It simply emphasizes on empathy. When you put yourself in another person’s shoe, you see the logic in their thoughts, and actions. Such things brings us closer to the objective of understanding and thereafter, compromising.
I find it worthless when a couple separates because of lack of understanding and compromise. Here compromise also generates the idea of sacrifice. Well I have learned that it is crucial for a couple to sacrifice in order to achieve a sustainable relationship.
However, one must never give in too much as too much of something is as fatal as nothing at all...
This can go on as it is a debatable topic; however I would just like to pass this message to my partner...
“Darling, I am compromising and understanding as much as I can...
I am human too, and there are things that I need time to work on...
It doesn’t mean that I have less feelings for you or that I don’t want too..
It just takes time...
I love you... and I will never allow petty matters surpass as a reason for our downfall...
And I definitely expect the same from your side....”
With Love,
~C~
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